#семья #familyofchoice You should start with your childhood. But it’s never late. And it’s not only about parents. It’s fair for everyone and each one.

Andrew Vachss

June 19 at 9:28 AM

Here’s what I tell so many formerly abused children who are now adults: Look how desperately you wanted to bond with «parents» who would not love you. That is not a defect; it proves that the ability to love has not been eradicated in you.

But you must choose carefully. Test, establish criteria, search — and resolve to be alone if you cannot find what you deserve. Bonding, in and of itself, is of no value unless the current flows in both directions.